Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Ida Clare, It's Muesday
In my humble opinion, it is difficult enough to live a creative life if you have a healthy dose of self-esteem. If you spend any time listening to your inner-critic, you know what it means to lose the mental boxing match where you give yourself a good work-over. A referee would declare it a lose/lose proposition.
I don’t know about you, but I get weary of the smarty-know-it-all, second-guesser that lives rent-free inside my head and can make a good day go bad.
Guilt, regrets, and doubt floods in and creativity stalls to a halt. What’s a creative chick supposed to do? Here are a few tricks I use when my Blockhead is browbeating me.
• Know that Blockhead lies. Find a trusted art buddy who will tell you the truth.
• Know that Blockhead wears many masks and repeats voices from the past. See if you can identify who Blockhead is today. If you are hearing: “You are so dumb. You can’t spell. You can’t write a decent sentence.” Maybe that voice doesn’t belong to you. Maybe it belongs to Mr. Wilson in eighth grade English who shamed you in front of the class because he was hung-over and short-tempered. Tell your internal Mr. Wilson what you couldn’t say in eighth grade. Stand up for that eighth-grader and tell Mr. Wilson to stop talking. Realize that you are no longer back there and things have changed and you no longer allow others to shame you.
• Stop and do something nice for your self to stop the cycle of self-abuse.
If you shudder to think how much you beat yourself up find a way to throw in the towel and step out of the ring.